Isn't it funny that in the white mans' land,women are as liberated and free spirited as men .
They smoke, drink, dress how they like, hell they pick and drop men as they please, they decide what they want and how they want it, where they want it and when they want it. Amazing right?
So i walk down the street watching the ladies dress in tight fitted dresses with a smile plastered to their faces, it seem life could not be more rosy as worries and troubles end at the bottom of their cigarette bud , laughing without care cos really they don't give a damn @all.
However, Am still yet to decide if African women particularly Nigeria we hide behind a hypocritical facade, not showing who we really or just hiding the who we really for the benefits of societal acceptance. Because the minute they step off the plane its like a whole new life, the freedom to explore like they just broke free from prison.
I also find it amazing how our African men come here willing and so edger to accept foreign women just the way they are,they accept them in spite of the crazy things they do, the crazy things 1/4 of which they would judge an African women to harshly for, don't want to go into an in dept detail of the way the foreign women are, lets just say they are every thing an African woman is not :D
But really jokes apart, a typical well brought up Nigerian lady would go the extra miles for our men, we would slave and cook in the kitchen, do the laundry and still be polite about it because we were thought to do so, we were thought to serve our men, and take good care of them, love them and respect them, support them and cherish them and most of all not refuse them when they call us to the chamber........
So how can i blame our Nigerian men when the start chasing after the skimpy dressed fair skinned mama mia, whose morning words are "baby were is your lighter" when the truth is, just maybe we seem like puppets.
Most of all i cant blame the African ladies who leave home and go crazy, emulating the actions of the foreigners because for once she found some one who made her feel different, and for the first time she doesn't have to pretend to be who she is not, she acts without holding back or reservation hoping that word of her misdeeds doesn't sail back home, so that she could return and settle down as society has dictated.
But in the mist of all these craziness who is to blame?
Is it the society that dictates so strictly making women feel like they no place than to be behind the curtains at all time, or the men who based their world on lies and double standards.
I personally blame society, the crazy notion that the world should be a certain way is sickening to digest, why should it be okay to condemn a woman in your country for certain attributes but love another woman for the same attributes. I fail to understand why!
Double Standard don't you think?
